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PDF of A Conversation with Shaikh al-Albaani’s Wife, Umm al-Fadl

Here is the PDF version of all the separate posts in one place.

And a link here to the first post in the series if you want to read it there.

A Conversation with his Wife | 5 | Her Advice to the Sisters and Her Reaction to those who Lied Against the Shaikh

See here for part four.

    “Do you feel the extent of the love of the Muslims for your husband, may Allaah have mercy on him, or do you feel that they have fallen short in that?”

Yes, my children, I know the extent of the people’s love for the Shaikh, may Allaah have mercy on him, but I want them to always remember him by supplicating for him, [asking] that Allaah reward him with the best of rewards on behalf of the Muslims.

I personally bought a small apartment opposite the graveyard in which he was buried in South Marca, Amman. And believe me, I always wake up at night and look at the graveyard and supplicate for him and his student Abu Mu’aadh and the daughter of our brother Abul-Yamaan, Sumayyah, may Allaah have mercy on them all. And may Allaah have mercy on all of the deceased Muslims, and may He gather us with them in Paradise with the Chief of the Messengers. Aameen.

     “How can we, when we are deprived of the presence of a great scholar amongst us, recall the times that the great Shaikh would give his lectures in when we were not present at those lectures whose loss to us Allaah knows the extent of?”

My brother, it is possible for you to recall those beautiful times with the Shaikh through his recorded tapes which are widespread and in their thousands, the same goes for his books in the Islamic bookshops.

     “Did any of the Shaikh’s sons take their fathers lead in seeking knowledge and excelling in the Science of Hadith? And did the Shaikh have an effect in that?”

The one who followed his lead the most in the science of hadith was his daughter, Umm Abdullaah, may Allaah protect her.

     “I ask that you don’t deprive us ladies of advice on what our role in nurturing a generation of those who strive should be?  And I repeat my thanks and gratitude to those who came up with this idea and strove to implement it.”

My advice to my daughters, the Muslim girls, is that they fear Allaah the Mighty and Majestic, and learn their religion especially that which concerns the Muslim woman’s role in her home and such circumstances, and that which is connected to raising their children. And that the Muslim sister concentrate on the affairs of her household, on nurturing her children herself, and taking care of her husband, in compliance with the Saying of the Most High, “… and stay in your houses …” [Al-Ahzaab 33:33]. And the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم said, ‘When the woman prays her five, fasts her month, guards her chastity, obeys her husband, it is said to her, ‘Enter Paradise from whichever gate you wish,’’ what more do you want?

     “What was the reaction of the Shaikh, may Allaah have mercy on him, to those people of unsound creed who are widespread in Jordan and other countries when they would attack and lie against him in the newspapers and other such media?”

The Shaikh would treat those who attacked and lied against him as noble people do, [their example is that] of an ibex striking a rock with its horns, [in the end it only weakens its own antlers].

And I remember one time I was with him in the car, and he had turned on the cassette of a sermon delivered by a man who was attacking and lying upon the Shaikh and declaring him to be a disbeliever and so on, may Allaah have mercy on him.

I was about to explode in rage.

I was watching the Shaikh [i.e, his reaction] and it was as though nothing had happened! Until I [finally] said to him, ‘What is wrong with you? Can you hear what he is saying?’ So he signalled to me that it’s no problem, don’t worry about it.

The important thing is that Allaah accepts it, may Allaah have mercy on him and make both us and you from those whose actions are accepted.

See here for the last post in the series.

A Conversation with his Wife | 4 | How did Umm al-Fadl help the Shaikh in his Knowledge?

See here for part three.

“Our noble mother, did you have a role to play with regard to the level that our scholar and Shaikh, al-Albaani, reached in terms of excellence and knowledge in the religion of Allaah and the Sunnah of His Messenger عليه الصلاة والسلام. Because this concerns us greatly, how can we encourage and help our brothers and families in seeking knowledge? Was there a piece of research or an opinion in a matter or point of knowledge that may have popped up that was shared between you and the Shaikh, may Allaah have mercy on him, and did you benefit from his knowledge? Your daughter and someone who loves you for the sake of Allaah.”

As for benefitting from [his] knowledge, then all praise is due to Allaah, we benefitted vastly from him. In fact, my family, Aal-Aabideen, and others benefitted from him after we got married. Many times people will ask me about a legislative ruling so I say, ‘The Shaikh used to say such and such about that,’ and if I don’t know, [then] on their behalf I ask some of the Shaikh’s students who were close to him and who he trusted.

As for my role in his knowledge, then I am not even a student of knowledge, and how can someone like me share with him in his knowledge and his precise knowledge-based research?

But I used to prepare the environment for him, as they say, as much as I was able to. I would serve him, his guests and his students as much as I could, for he did not have a maid and he would never accept having a maid in the house.

May Allaah grant you success, was-salaamu alaikum.

     “What effect did leaving Medinah al-Munawwarah have on our great scholar, i.e., when he moved from there?”

The Shaikh was greatly affected when he left Medinah an-Nabawiyyah. He used to regard the days he spent in the City of the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم as the best of his life. But [at the same time] that did not ever stop him from continuing in his knowledge-based projects.

     “What is the most distinguished Islamic event that he participated in while residing in Medinah al-Munawwrah?”

As for the most distinguished Islamic even that occurred there then I do not know for I was not with him.

     “In the opinion of our Khaalah, Umm al-Fadl, how do we honour a great scholar like him?”

As for honouring the Shaikh then there is nothing like supplicating for him and adhering to the methodology which he would always call to and which he would summarise in two words: purification and cultivation. Namely, purifying the methodology of the Muslims and their heritage from the innovations, heretical superstitions [khuraafaat] and weak hadiths and so on, while cultivating [the people] upon the true methodology and the upright religion. The Shaikh used to regard one of the greatest problems of the Muslims, especially those who claim to be following the Sunnah, to be correct cultivation upon the sound methodology. And by and large, this cultivation requires a long period of time and great effort.

See here for part five.

A Conversation with his Wife | 3 | A Description of his Day

See here for part two.

     “Our noble mother, we’d like you to give us a description of a complete day from his life, may Allaah have mercy on him, from the time he would wake up for fajr until the time he’d go to bed at night.”

A description of a full day from the Shaikh’s life. The Shaikh, may Allaah have mercy on him, would wake up for the morning prayer, if not before it, and would also wake some of his students through the phone. Then he would, as long as he was physically able, go and take his students from their houses or from the road where they’d be waiting for him. They would pray the morning prayer in a mosque where the Imaam would strive to implement the Sunnah and shun innovations, like the qunoot in fajr, and most of the time the mosque was far away from our area.

Then if there was no sitting with his students in the mosque, the Shaikh would come back to his library and stay there amongst his books and his research up until seven o’clock in the morning at which time I would have prepared some breakfast for him. So he would take his breakfast and then return to his library and stay there until it was time for the siesta [qailulah], which was when the Shaikh would begin to feel sleepy. So he would go and sleep for a short while and then return to his library.

And this was how his lunch would be too, at one o’clock. As for dinner, then the Shaikh would not desire it. He would answer calls on the phone after ishaa prayer, for he had appointed two hours for issuing religious verdicts on the phone. As for visits, he had set the time between maghrib and ishaa for them during the days when his circumstances would allow him to do so.

     “How would the Shaikh react to what the Islamic nation was going through and what affect did that have on him?”

As for the reaction of the Shaikh to what was occurring in the Islamic ummah, then we did not have a television in the house, because the Shaikh did not want to bring that upon us, and he wouldn’t buy newspapers but [at the same time] he would be extremely hurt at what was happening to the Muslims in Palestine, Iraq, Afghanistan and the other Islamic countries.

And he was often moved by his Muslim brothers in Syria at the time of the events that occurred in the eighties with the Alawites. Since many times the Muslim youth would come to him and seek his counsel and he would honour them and receive them in the best way possible.

See here for part four.

A Conversation with his Wife | 2 | Did he help his Family or Neglect them due to his Teaching?

See here for part one.

     “Can you, O Khaalah, tell us briefly about the times the Shaikh had to relocate?”

The Shaikh emigrated from Albania with his father to Damascus when he was about ten years old. He then emigrated to Jordan in 1980 and settled in South Marca, Amman. Then he was compelled to go back to Damascus and from there to Beirut, Lebanon, in 1981. Shaikh Zuhair ash-Shaaweesh hosted him there in his house. After that he travelled to Sharjah and stayed there for two months, calling to the Salafi manhaj. After which he went to Qatar for one month, then Kuwait, staying there for ten days. Then Sharjah and from there back to Jordan where he stayed until he passed away on Saturday, 2/10/1999.

     “Being the wife of this noble scholar, did you see that his knowledge, seeking knowledge and teaching it to the people took away from his coexistence with you as the head of your household? And did this have a negative effect on his children? And my dear mother, can I ask you to single me out with some supplication for I am in dire need of it. May Allaah protect you and give you good.” Wa alaikum Salaam wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuhu

I thank you for your warm sentiments and I want to let you know that seeking knowledge would not prevent the Shaikh from carrying out any of his family obligations.

Rather, the total opposite was true.

For he, may Allaah have mercy on him, was an exemplary head of a household, cooperating with his family.

And believe me, my son, he used to help me a great deal in the household chores such that I would feel embarrassed in front of him due to it. So much so that one time he was cleaning the patio with me, to which I said, ‘O Shaikh! Don’t disgrace me in front of the neighbours, they will say that you are doing your wife’s work.’ He replied, ‘This is not a disgrace. Don’t you know that the Prophet صلى الله عليه وسلم would be at the service of his family?’

When I would ask him for anything [I needed] for the house, for example, an extra shelf somewhere, he would assess the situation and think about it and if he found that it was appropriate he would go ahead with it and do it with his own hands. And if he needed to go and buy something for it, he would do so in his car and then come back and do what I had requested of him.

One of his hobbies was to go on trips, may Allaah have mercy on him, like Syrians do, the [picnic] basket was always in the car. We would go together in spring, summer, even winter, looking at the snow and [the] wintertime [landscape]. He would complement me by drinking tea and coffee, even though it was not his habit to drink either of them.

But he would never leave his books on any outing we would go on. Books were his companions wherever he went.

In fact, there were many times when I would wake up and would not see him on the bed. So I would look for him and find him in his study, having turned on the lamp, engrossed in his books. I’d be surprised and he would say, ‘These are my beloved!’ May Allaah have mercy on him.

May Allaah grant you succees, remove your distress and calamity and make you from those happy in this world and the Hereafter. Aameen.

See here for part three.

A Conversation with the Wife of Shaikh Al-Albaani | 1

     “Could you tell us your name and place of birth?”

Yusraa Abdur-Rahmaan Aabideen, Umm al-Fadl.
Place of birth: Salt [Jordan], and on the birth certificate it mentions Jerusalem, 1929.

     “O Khaalah [lit: maternal aunt/aunty], could you tell us about your upbringing up until the time you married the Shaikh, may Allaah have mercy on him?”

I grew up in Jerusalem, in the area of the Al-Aqsa Mosque. My father worked as a trader, but I never knew him, for he died when I was still young. So I was raised by my brother, Nadhmee, may Allaah have mercy on him.

I remained in Jerusalem until 1948, after which I moved for good to Jordan. The Shaikh, may Allaah have mercy on him, proposed to me in 1981. I used to live in North Marca, so he took me to South Marca, a place I had wanted to get to know more about, so the Shaikh caused me to settle there, may Allaah the Most High have mercy on him.

The Shaikh married his first wife, Umm Abdur-Rahmaan in Damascus, she was Yugoslavian. And she gave birth to Abdur-Rahmaan, Abdul-Lateef and Abdur-Razzaaq, and others [too] who Allaah caused to pass away. Then she too passed away.

The Shaikh then married his second wife, Naajiyah, she was also Yugoslavian. He had nine children with her, four boys and five girls. The boys were: Abdul-Musowwir, Abdul-A’laa, Muhammad and Abdul-Muhaimin. The girls: Aneesah, Aasiyah, Salaamah, Hassaanah and Sukainah.

He married the third while he had been married to the second for about two years. Her name is Khadijah al-Qaadiri and she is Syrian. She is the sister of Dr. Muhammad Ameen al-Misri’s wife, may Allaah have mercy on him, the well-known teacher at the Islamic University of Madinah, and a friend of the Shaikh, may Allaah have mercy on them both.

The Shaikh had one daughter from his wife Khadijah, Hibatullaah. And he divorced his second wife who he used to live with in the Yarmouk Camp in Damascus.

Then he migrated with Khadijah to Jordan in 1980 and settled in South Marca, Amman, close to Shaikh Ahmad Atiyah who was from the closest of people to the Shaikh. [But] then Ahmad Atiyah separated himself from Shaikh al-Albaani and his methodology, and became a Sufi, and then he embraced Baha’ism. We ask Allaah for well-being.

His third wife, Khadijah only stayed in Amman for a short while after which she moved to Damascus and refused to reside in Amman. After approximately six months, the Shaikh sent divorce papers to her and she returned their joint-passport which was with her to him.

Ahmad Atiyah, along with his cousin, Shaikh Jameel, came to South Marca to my brother’s shop and asked him for my hand in marriage [on behalf of the Shaikh] in 1981.

We finalised the marriage contract [i.e., the nikaah], in my cousin’s house in Marca. The Shaikh stipulated the dowry himself! For he informed us that this was the legislated [thing to do]–i.e., that the one proposing marriage stipulates that which he sees fit so that the dowry for his wife will be within his means, so he gave me two hundred dinaars at that time. And he did not stipulate a delayed dowry, for that is not from the Sunnah.

I went with him to the market and we bought some non-circular gold with the dowry, since he did not hold it to be permissible to wear circular gold.

We agreed to get married [i.e., that she would go and live with him] after about two months after the Shaikh would finish building his new house in South Marca. We got married half way through the blessed month of Ramadaan.

See here for part two.

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